Posts Tagged ‘abuse’

August 25, 2014

Addicts and Their Families-How Spouses Can Get Help

Are you in therapy because you are married, in love with or living with an addict? Many people enter therapy trying to cope with the stress of living with an addict and they are always asking, “how can I get her to stop”, “what can I do to make him change”. That’s great! You’ve taken […]

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December 17, 2013

Actions, Not Words are What Matter in a Relationship

THREE CONCEPTS OF LOVE We think of love in three different ways in the context of our intimate relationships: 1.Words 2. Feelings 3. Actions The differences in the manifestations of these three concepts cause a lot of confusion and often misery in our lives. How often have you heard a friend describe her difficult and […]

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April 8, 2013

Rutgers Firing-Are Sports and Abuse a Natural Combination?

The firing of the Rutgers basketball coach for abusive behavior brings to mind the headlines about Penn State and the cover up of Jerry Sandusky’s even more egregious behavior. Both of these situations show the incredible value our society places on sports and the corruption it can cause-trumping safety, morals and basic human decency. Full […]

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March 24, 2012

Afraid in the Garden of Good and Evil-When People You Love Hurt You

I was struck by an article written by columnist David Brooks in the March 19th New York Times,  “When the Good do Bad.”  This is a theme I often come across in my work as a psychologist.  Brooks was writing about Sergeant Bales, the man accused of murdering 17 people in Afghanistan.  Brooks writes of […]

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December 8, 2011

Psychotherapy. What’s Childhood Got to Do With It?

One of the stereotypes about counseling and psychotherapy is that you have to rehash your past and go back to your childhood. In fact many problems are not related significantly with childhood. People with very stable and happy childhoods develop problems for which they seek help later in life such as overcoming shyness, dealing with […]

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